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Christian Leaders and their dysfunctional family the church.




Have a family culture.

I have just finished reading the book of Genesis. The whole book gave me the feeling that no matter what the outcome God was always in control. There is also a human face to the book, the stories of the great patriarchal families for example and their struggles with nature, their neighbours and each other. The one thing that struck me was how dysfunctional these families were. There was adultery, deceit, trickery and sibling rivalry to name but a few of their many flaws.

This got me thinking about our church family and the fact that this too is made up of all sorts of dysfunctional people. Charles Spurgeon once said that there is no such thing as a perfect church and if you find one; don't go because it will no longer be perfect. By their very nature therefore churches should not exist, but they do.

How do we as Christian Leaders help our dysfunctional church families grow and prosper in their relationship with God and each other? Here are some of the ways I think that we can do this:

1. Encourage a friendship culture in the church, not just a friendly culture. I have been in many churches that say they are friendly but in reality they are not. Visitors are sometimes over looked and even ignored, because we feel uncomfortable speaking to strangers. The sooner a leader can stamp this out and encourage their congregation to engage with strangers and develop a friendship culture the more people will feel inclined to become involved.

2. Having a friendship culture will quickly lead to a family culture, where people become involved in serving Jesus Christ and his church and become part of a group, that is full of different people but is potential focused rather than problem focused.

3) If you emphasis a high friendship culture you will have a low pastoral care input because the friends the new converts are making will be putting positive things into their lives. Churches that just claim to be friendly inevitably have a high pastoral care input, where pastors and leaders are run off their feet trying to solve peoples problems.

4) A Friendship based culture leads to a family culture that encourages dysfunctional people to be functional and grow in their potential along with the rest of their new family

5) Our jobs are to make disciples of people, in other words we need to get them to become lifelong learners, in the right sort of lifelong relationship, with Jesus.

6) The way we build relationship is that we are real and authentic with people just the way Jesus was authentic with us.


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